'Your fairy tale touched me!' writes Linda, a correspondent. 'And I want to tell you about my daughter's experience and why I am so proud of her.'
Until recently she had been dealing with an on going situation that would have driven other women to their knees years ago. Being married to someone with bipolar has been a hard road for her and at times she has been alone and in the very depths of despair. But she is like the phoenix you mentioned and has risen out of the ashes. Instead of collapsing her inner tenacity, survivalist nature and eternal maternal instincts have allowed her to start emerging as a stronger woman who is learning what life is like when she is not being controlled, threatened and brow beaten. She no longer feels she has to tread on eggshells and now smiles in his face and his need to control her.
She is grateful to him in a way for without his emotional terrorism she would not be the powerful, exciting, clever, self-assured, good humoured, beautiful woman she is today.
She is now regaining her old self which has been suffocated for years. The blinkers have been removed from her eyes and she can see the sad, unimpressive, weak emasculated creature he really is - someone who needs to bully and threaten her in order to make himself feel superior for added to the fact he has bipolar he has an inferiority complex!
I know she is not perfect. I am not a parent who does not see the faults in their children. I have seen them since she was a child and have acknowledged them just as I acknowledge my own faults and weaknesses.
I also know that others have been hurt but that is life, I'm afraid - so have I but the difference between them and me is that while I apologised to them none who hurt me ever have.
And he has never apologised to her either for his behaviour towards her over so many years! "Why should I apologise, he says, I am bipolar!" One of the symptoms of bipolar is little or no insight!
I too lost my children because of my husband's desire for revenge but the hurt I suffered made me strong and this is the reason my daughter wants him completely out of her life.
In his attempts to blacken her name he has accused her of being an alcoholic because she occasionally has a drink. If this is so that makes us all alcoholics! He does not drink because his mother did, excessively so, which is why in his eyes one or two drinks makes her an alcoholic.
I have to say however that it surprises me that my daughter did not become one because living with him was nightmare.
Thank heavans she is free at last. Free of the man who dragged her down and has such little respect for her but still has respect for her money which receives in maintenance from her!
I don't think I need to tell you - I love her and am proud of her.
Until recently she had been dealing with an on going situation that would have driven other women to their knees years ago. Being married to someone with bipolar has been a hard road for her and at times she has been alone and in the very depths of despair. But she is like the phoenix you mentioned and has risen out of the ashes. Instead of collapsing her inner tenacity, survivalist nature and eternal maternal instincts have allowed her to start emerging as a stronger woman who is learning what life is like when she is not being controlled, threatened and brow beaten. She no longer feels she has to tread on eggshells and now smiles in his face and his need to control her.
She is grateful to him in a way for without his emotional terrorism she would not be the powerful, exciting, clever, self-assured, good humoured, beautiful woman she is today.
She is now regaining her old self which has been suffocated for years. The blinkers have been removed from her eyes and she can see the sad, unimpressive, weak emasculated creature he really is - someone who needs to bully and threaten her in order to make himself feel superior for added to the fact he has bipolar he has an inferiority complex!
I know she is not perfect. I am not a parent who does not see the faults in their children. I have seen them since she was a child and have acknowledged them just as I acknowledge my own faults and weaknesses.
I also know that others have been hurt but that is life, I'm afraid - so have I but the difference between them and me is that while I apologised to them none who hurt me ever have.
And he has never apologised to her either for his behaviour towards her over so many years! "Why should I apologise, he says, I am bipolar!" One of the symptoms of bipolar is little or no insight!
I too lost my children because of my husband's desire for revenge but the hurt I suffered made me strong and this is the reason my daughter wants him completely out of her life.
In his attempts to blacken her name he has accused her of being an alcoholic because she occasionally has a drink. If this is so that makes us all alcoholics! He does not drink because his mother did, excessively so, which is why in his eyes one or two drinks makes her an alcoholic.
I have to say however that it surprises me that my daughter did not become one because living with him was nightmare.
Thank heavans she is free at last. Free of the man who dragged her down and has such little respect for her but still has respect for her money which receives in maintenance from her!
I don't think I need to tell you - I love her and am proud of her.
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