Jessica Feb. 16, 2008
I am recently divorced and my husband is also bipolor. I have known him since high school, and looking back now, I believe he was suffering even then. The first two years of our marriage were wonderful, but immediately after the 2nd year, it went straight downhill. He could not deal with me, I was always being mean to him, now matter what I said or how I said it. It became a situation of me tiptoeing, and no longer feeling comfortable in my own home.
He began having an emotional affair with a co-worker, who he swore up & down was just a friend, but I started getting that gut instinct. One day I told him that I was beginning to feel uncomfortable with their relationship, and he promptly said he felt we should separate. It was completely a complete blow, especially because the next day, he came home saying he wanted to work it out.
Few days later, he wanted to separate again, and ended up spending the evening with his "friend", which he confessed to me the next morning when he came home, begging to work things out again.
This went on until I finally moved out. We decided that we would still try to work things out, but separated, since I no longer felt safe at home. Then he proceeded to have an affair with this woman. Few months later, he called me at my job to confess. This whole time, he refused to get help, at one point actually lied about seeing a therapist, and bounced back & forth for a year about divorce. One weekend, we decided we would make the effort to make it work & have me move back in.
By Monday, he wanted a divorce. I told him to file immediately. We are now divorced and he is still trying to be in my life, wanting me back. He's not on meds because he's in the military, but he sees a psychiatrist regularly. He seems to be better now, but I can't trust him. I dont think I have the strenght. It seems so unfair for both of us. - See more at: http://www.healthcentral.com/bipolar/c/85123/19386/losing-bipolar/#sthash.DGHILUbd.dpuf
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