Advice to people divorcing

Stand not upon the order of your going, But go at once. Good advice to divorcing couples.

Once the decision has been made and divorce proceedings have started and an agreement reached about who will leave the family home - depart as soon as possible. Find somewhere else to live. Teasing it out  as long as possible will only create bitterness in the other. For heavan's sake, they are saying, let me go - set me free  - but as the weeks pass, during which the family home is still being shared and there is no sign of the other leaving those words become - get out of my sight, I loathe you.
Get the message early. If its over - its over - get started on your new life as soon as possible.

Sometimes dragging it out is done to make things as uncomfortable as possible for the other. Bad move. Think of what this is doing to the children. Think of them and not yourself for a change.

My advice is to end it quickly before you end up hating each other and before one or the other or both become deeply depressed. When this happens there is no longer room for any forgiveness - not just for the past but for what is happening before the decree absolute.

It could so easily have ended sooner with both wishing the other 'Good Luck' and remaining friends.
But all too often I have heard the words 'Too late for that' from many who started divorce proceedings and wanted the marriage to end without bitterness.
Too late, they say, they dragged it out so long I can no longer stand the sight, sound or thought of them.